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Post by Dame Tashawna on Dec 5, 2015 22:46:50 GMT -6
Aiden: Thanks for the tip. For all you other "shy" people, something that can help in unnerving or awkward situations, is to think of heaven- that that's where we're ultimately going, so who cares how awkward you feel here and now!
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Post by Brie D on Dec 6, 2015 13:58:31 GMT -6
And you just have to learn to care more about the other person than yourself. Shyness is usually selfish, we are self-conscious, afraid even. And we shouldn't be. God is with us and we ought not fear. We ought to love the other person as we have been commanded and speak to them.
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Post by MistyofGreenshire on Dec 6, 2015 17:20:30 GMT -6
I'm really shy, but one time when I was in 7th grade there was a new girl who moved here from Alabama and I'd seen her but not really talked to her, and she walked into my history class, and since it was the first day of school we were all choosing seats, and she stood in the doorway and looked kind of lost. I was in the back and there was an empty seat next to me and I have no idea why, but I sort of half stood and waved and she came over and we sat together. It was really great, we basically talked all class and laughed about the silliest things (my name tag/card/thing kept falling over) and that was 3 years ago and she's still one of my best friends. So yeah
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Post by BladeSpinnerRae on Dec 7, 2015 5:32:26 GMT -6
That's really cool MistyofGreenshire! I can see why shyness could be selfish, but it isn't always. Nor something that should be condemned. Some people are just naturally quiet and shy. And that's okay. Yes, God is with us and we do need to love as He loves, but if He hasn't equipped a person to do that, and we're just forcing ourselves to because it's what the world yells at us to do, we're not really doing in it God's strength at all. God *can* give us the strength, and I believe He does. He does often want us to step outside ourselves for Him, but it has to be because of Him, not because of peer-pressure. He gives grace, while the world gives judgment/condemnation. As might be visible, I'm kind of passionate about this subject. I've been quiet and 'shy' my whole life, growing up I was uncomfortably shy. I can talk to people and interact, but it is not in my nature to be extroverted and forward. I've prayed about the subject, and know that God makes each people as He wants them. Quietness and shyness is not a curse or a sin. And I'm not saying those who are shy shouldn't try talking to people - it does happen, and God gives strength! I'm just saying that it shouldn't be forced by our own strength because we feel condemned to do so.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 7, 2015 13:23:50 GMT -6
I don't think shyness is exactly being selfish, but more of like living in fear. And here is my reasoning as to way I think that. You fear what the other person thinks, you are afraid of opening up to someone else because you fear they will reject you, you fear being exposed to hurt, you don't want to feel those emotions. So you live in shyness/fear because it is safe, it never hurt you and is always waiting for you. It is part of our lives you have to keep others out so you don't feel the pain that could be on the other side of the door, we don't want to open up because that could be dangerous, we may feel the pain of rejection so instead of giving anyone that chance we lock ourselves up, we cut off the world, we live in ourselves because we let fear live in our minds. But Whatever is the cause of shyness I know of only one cure for it. And the cure is Jesus Christ, it is though Him that every cure is found. If shyness is caused by fear than look to the Bible, it says so many times to not fear, fear is not of God. If it is a cause of selfishness then look again to the Bible, Jesus tells us that to follow him is to deny ourselves and to pick up our crosses and follow Him. But whatever the cause I know that Jesus is the cure.
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Post by Brie D on Dec 7, 2015 14:28:06 GMT -6
I agree with all that. I certainly wasn't trying to condemn or pressure anyone. I'm shy myself.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 7, 2015 14:56:51 GMT -6
Oh no i am not saying your condemning anyone i was just putting my thoughts into the mix
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Post by Brie D on Dec 7, 2015 16:06:18 GMT -6
I didn't think anyone thought I was. I was just clarifying.
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Post by LadyErika on Dec 9, 2015 10:13:13 GMT -6
A lot of shyness is simply trying to protect yourself - to not be vulnerable or in a position where you could be embarrassed, get your feelings hurt, be rejected, and so on - or just not put yourself in an uncomfortable situation. And that goes back to fear - fear of man, fear of what people think, fear of hurting your own reputation, fear of rejection, etc. And perfect love casts out fear.
One good point to remember is that everyone is like this. Everyone wants to protect themselves. Everyone wants to be accepted. No one wants to be in an uncomfortable situation. And most people (though there are definitely exceptions!) don't necessarily want to go talk to a stranger or someone they don't know well.
For me it's helpful to go into a situation thinking about how God wants me to bless or encourage those around me. It's not about me; it's about Him.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 9, 2015 10:22:09 GMT -6
Well i am not shy. I am anit-social, i just don't like people. And that is what i have to deal with, i have no fear of man.
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Post by rayray on Dec 9, 2015 11:52:20 GMT -6
I'm kind of the same. I like the people I know, but new people scare me.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 9, 2015 12:11:21 GMT -6
I am not sacred of people, though i wish more people where sacred of me
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Post by rayray on Dec 9, 2015 12:12:42 GMT -6
Nothing creepy about that... I am just super nervous around people, my friend said, "But you're not nervous around me", and I was like "I've known you for years!"
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Post by Deleted on Dec 9, 2015 12:18:00 GMT -6
Well i guess everyone struggles in a different way. But as long as we come to the Lord with our struggles He will help us through them. When i walk into a room full of new people i try to say hi to everyone, it helps me with my "not caring for others" sin
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Post by rayray on Dec 9, 2015 12:19:21 GMT -6
I try to do that to at least one person
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Post by LadyErika on Dec 9, 2015 21:26:35 GMT -6
It's hard meeting new people. But... our best friends were once strangers to us. You never know how close you might get to someone until sometime after you say hello!
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Post by Brie D on Dec 10, 2015 15:04:02 GMT -6
Yes. I haven't had any really long lasting deep friendships come just from me saying hi, but that's probably only because I haven't been able to keep in touch.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 12, 2015 11:17:08 GMT -6
BladeSpinnerRae find it interesting that you choose to observe Hanukah, considering that it is not fond in the bible (but I could be wrong so if it is I would love it if you gave me the Book and Captures in which God told them to observe it), and that it's focus is not God but rather man.
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Post by rayray on Dec 12, 2015 11:29:40 GMT -6
It was created by the jews after the bible, its very interesting.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 12, 2015 11:33:18 GMT -6
I know that, I am starter than I look
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Post by rayray on Dec 12, 2015 11:50:35 GMT -6
Smarter? And I think you mean seem, because we are talking to you on the computer, not in real life. I played the dredal thingy in Sunday School and won a lot of m & m's.
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Post by Brie D on Dec 12, 2015 14:53:39 GMT -6
I don't believe Rae said they were actually observing it, just studying it. I had that question as well though.
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Post by BladeSpinnerRae on Dec 12, 2015 15:58:41 GMT -6
Aiden I'll answer these questions, but then I'd appreciate if we could move on - it's starting to feel like you're trying to correct me or fix me, and I trust that the Lord is leading us where He desires us to be, so I trust Him to correct or fix us if need be. So, to answer your question, Brie D was correct - we are not observing it at the moment. We are learning about it. Whether or not we will come to observe it, I'm not sure - it's up to God. No, we're not "told" to observe it in the Bible, just as we're not "told" to observe Christmas either. However, the difference is that Jesus observed Hanukkah (but did not observe Christmas). As did the following first, second, third century etc. Jews and Gentiles alike (Christians). So again, if it's good enough for Jesus, then it's good enough for me, regardless of the fact that He was Jewish and we're not as you've said in the past. Yes, He was Jewish, and I guess I'm still don't understand why that's a problem. It's fine with me that He was Jewish, and it's fine with me to learn about all that He did. I hope this explains it, and remember, these are my personal convictions. I am not forcing them on anyone. So, I hope we can move on now.
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Post by rayray on Dec 12, 2015 16:03:48 GMT -6
I completely agree with you BladeSpinnerRae! There is nothing wrong with Hanakah, infact I enjoy doing a small celebration at our sunday school because our teachers celebrate it (they are not jewish). I am super sorry if it felt wrong.
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Post by BladeSpinnerRae on Dec 12, 2015 16:29:21 GMT -6
Thank you for your comment rayray. You don't need to be sorry - I didn't take offense to anything you said. I think it's cool that your teachers celebrate it and you get to experience some of it. That sounds fun!
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Post by rayray on Dec 12, 2015 16:30:42 GMT -6
It was! We read the true story behind it and played the dredal thingy with m & ms, I got a whole lot!
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Post by bourdongirl on Dec 12, 2015 16:34:19 GMT -6
Is anyone else wishing it would snow?
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Post by rayray on Dec 12, 2015 16:37:07 GMT -6
YES! it is kind of hotidsh/coldish here. But it's ok I guess. So what do you guys think about violence in shows and movies?
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Post by bourdongirl on Dec 12, 2015 16:44:12 GMT -6
Its really warm here in VA for Dec. *sigh* I like some violence, just not a lot of gruesome looking stuff, I mean, what would our stories be if the characters didn't get captured and at times tortured?
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Post by rayray on Dec 12, 2015 16:45:55 GMT -6
Eehh, I never have my characters violently tortured like that! A punch at the most, but I have a thing about torture ever since I watched LOTR at twelve.
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